Goal oriented

I was just listening to some songs on YouTube when I was again reminded of the important aspect in life: purpose.

It reminds me of some friends who are very goal oriented. They always plan, in great detail, all the things that they want to do and the maximum age that they want them to get done by.

One thing in particular is marriage. In my circle, 30 is usually the 'cut-off' marriage age for both males and female.

I happen to have a friend who is just short of 30. To cut the story short, he is very 'behind of his schedule' due to one thing and another so as soon as he was introduced to this girl, he immediately expressed his concern with this girl in regards to meeting 'the deadline' for marriage.

Apparently the girl was brought up in the same way of thinking so it was quite easy for them to arrange their marriage, even with very minimal knowledge of one another considering the very limited time and very far distance they have between them.

I really congratulate them for making it 'on-time' for marriage. I really do. After all, we have brains and it is only normal for people to use them to make schedules and stick to it.

I am not one of them. The number 30 is approaching soon and as much as I am quite concerned with 'the norm' to get married before a certain age, I am more concerned with what I might get out of marriage if I force myself to get married before 30 when deep down in my life I know that I am not totally ready to jump into this lifetime commitment wagon.

Yes, it had came across my mind several times that I might have been a commitment phobia. Or that I will never be ready enough to enter a marriage and that I just have to make that leap of faith. And they are, to some degree, reflect the truth. However, last week I was given the chance to stop and restore myself and it is then that I found the answer: Am I going to be a goal-oriented person or am I going to be a God-oriented person?

It might be my fault if I have foolishly spent all these years for things that do not matter the most. However, I believe that there is always another chance, even if it means a major delay to the destination I have been given to achieve. I will be more foolish if I decide to continue building if I know that the foundation is not solid -- and we know that life will only receive more and more tests and sooner or later any less-than-perfect work will not stand.

If I am to be God-oriented, then it doesn't really matter whether or not my goals are achieved -- as long as my relationship with Him is always achieved.